MYOB: Focusing on yourself for the sake of yourself

Our generation has accumulated many problems (like we can’t seem to “date” anymore, the world is full of f***boys, Trump is president, rape culture exists, I can’t afford a house due to avocado toast, etc.).

Since I don’t even wanna get started on the above problems, let’s begin with another big problem – FOMO.

For those who don’t know, FOMO stands for “fear of missing out.” If you have any form of social media or social life, I’m sure you’ve felt this.

Some may still not grasp the concept, so here is an example.

I am an RA at my college, which means that I spend every other weekend in the dorms making sure a freshmen doesn’t die. I honestly do love my job and the people that I have met through it, but when I’m sitting in my room watching “Princess Bride” while looking at snapchat seeing everyone with friends or at a party, I start to get anxious about all the fun everyone is having without me.

The root of my problem: social media.

I’m currently paying attention to what everyone else is doing instead of focusing on what’s important: me.

I need to mind my own business, and you need to MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS (MYOB) as well.

We have become obsessed with sharing our every breath on social media, and I’m all for it. However, just because the posts are there does not mean you need to continuously check in to see how everyone’s lives compare to your own.

I’m sure you’ve heard this before, but don’t compare your life to their highlight reel. Obviously, people only post the best moments and their highlights on social media (which means it’s not always an accurate representation).

Instead of wishing you were at a party or the movies with a massive group of people, take a step back from your phone and focus on yourself.

Take a look around you and see what is going great in your life. You are probably doing awesome things too.

Maybe you’re watching your favorite movie while eating a bowl of your favorite ice cream. Maybe you’re catching up on homework so you can up your GPA. You could be working out, getting your beauty rest, or even making some money at your job (even if you hate it). The point is, you may be doing a lot to improve yourself.

I have been crazy busy this summer. Sometimes it seems that everyone else is going out with friends and having the time of their life while I’m working two jobs.

Thankfully, I am so busy that I barely even have time to pay attention to the amazing summer everyone else is having because I’m focused on my own activities.

Focusing on me has opened up time for me to stop and realize how my brain works (especially my anxiety) and who I am as a person.

I worked out every day this summer, I made money, I honed in on skills I’ll need for my profession, and I built and maintained a blog. You may not think so, but I think that’s pretty badass. And it all was accomplished because I was focusing on ME.

I have faith one day I will be livin it up with a few less cares because I put in the time to work.

You will also have your time to shine, relax, and have fun, but for now, focus on you boo-boo.

Torri Natalia

P.S. At least you won’t have a hangover in the morning